Repeat after me:
It's ok to admit that I'm not okay when things are not okay.
All I can do is my best, and my best is truly enough.
Whatever I'm going through right now will not last forever.
I don't have to be liked by all for me to like all of myself.
My best friend and I were having a conversation recently about how certain things just weren't working out for her this year. Really, for a few years since she came back from a 9 month deployment at the end of 2018. Truly it had just felt like one thing after another and things just weren't coming together for her in how she imagined.
Can you relate to this?
Then she proceeded to continue to say things like:
I should just be grateful for where I am and what I have.
And: I should just see the positive in all this.
After she was done talking, I asked her this:
Have you just allowed yourself to not be ok with this? To get pissed, cry and flow through the emotions?
YES of course there's a cycle I was able to help her pin point where she could begin working through this (only because I was given permission because truth be told, not everyone wants to be told "what to do" or "how to heal". Sometimes we just need someone to LISTEN. Ya know?) but truth is:
It's ok not to be ok.
Society and sometimes our upbringing teaches us to "be strong" to "get up, dust off and move on". And now look. Truly, take a look around. How is that serving not only yourself but also the collective? (Collective meaning humanity as a whole.)
It teaches us to shove shit down and not look at it, talk about it and long term it causes so much turmoil from within that we just don't know what to do with it or it surfaces and we're totally taken back from it.
Especially right now in Mercury Retrograde (if you wanna learn more about it and tips to "survive" Mercury Retrograde, listen to my podcast episode on Rise Within Conversations from this week on any podcast app or by clicking here) where things have a tendency to go haywire and surface too.
I know that 2020 was a wild year.
I also know I teach you how to see the good SO OFTEN.
And YES it's ok to choose to feel good NOW. To take back the reigns to your energy levels and raise your vibration even just a little bit more right now (dance, nature, sing, watch a funny movie, whatever brings you joy!).
It's also ok to to cry and flow through the emotions. To just sit in the mud for a little bit. Allow yourself to just be there and process what you're going through. It doesn't mean it's your forever.
The lotus teaches us that something beautiful can bloom from the mud.
That something beautiful is YOU, friend. It's your situation/s that are being healed and the beauty and joy that will come from all this. Even if you can't see it now. That's ok.
So, today (or anytime going forward), know that it's ok to not be ok.
It's ok to sit in the mud
What you do is enough, what you give is enough.
I promise you this is not your forever.
(Ps--if you're needing help working your way through the mud, I got you. I have 2 spots left Spiritual Life Coaching program. If you feel like that's you and you're needing guidance and support, contact me here and let's chat).
Sending you so much love!